Spring is here which means wedding season has begun. Are you getting married, planning a wedding and filled with dread and anxiety? Are you wondering what you’ve gotten yourself in to? If you’re having trouble sleeping, eating too much or too little, have difficulty concentrating, are short-tempered and on edge most of the time, you’re probably suffering from pre-wedding jitters. Although this is to be expected, there are steps you can take to calm yourself down.
Calming your pre-wedding nerves:
Spend fun, relaxing, romantic time with your fiancé without talking about the wedding.
Consult with friends and family who have already experienced this.
Designate one night a week where discussion of the wedding is off limits.
Look at photos of happy times with your fiancé.
Talk to your fiancé about specific concerns you might have regarding the marriage.
Let others, especially your fiancé, support and nurture you.
Practice relaxation techniques.
Talk about your feelings.
See an individual or couple’s therapist if you feel you need additional support.
Some of the best and most memorable weddings are ones that didn’t go exactly as planned. It isn’t a sign that the marriage will fail, it’s just life. Laugh about it, brush it off and enjoy your day!
Holiday season is upon us and since I work with many people wanting to lose weight, I am often asked for strategies to maintaining present weight or even to continue weight loss during the holidays. No doubt your willpower will be tested during this season. Invitations await, cookies and fancy cocktails beckon, and it seems like everyone is begging you to taste their fattening masterpieces. Don’t panic, make a plan and be kind to yourself!
Here are some tips to help you stick to your goals during the holidays:
Avoid hunger. Make sure you eat regularly during the day and always include healthy proteins, which you help you feel satisfied for longer periods of time. Before going to a party, eat some vegetables and protein so you are not ravenous when the party begins. Going to a party with a somewhat full stomach will help you avoid some of the temptations.
Do some party planning. Don’t plan to abstain from all the goodies, that’s probably unrealistic and may cause you to overeat in the end. It’s often difficult to turn a blind eye to the scrumptious foods placed before you, so decide in advance what you’re going to splurge on. If dessert is your favorite, decide to take a bite or two of one to three desserts. Or maybe you’ll skip desserts in favor of a starch at the meal. Perhaps the hors d’oeuvres are what calls you so you’ll forgo desserts and starches in favor of tasting a few of them. Planning ahead will encourage you not to sample everything and will help prevent you giving yourself a hard time.
Keep your body moving. Plan to do a little exercise every day. Take a walk with a friend, take the stairs instead of the elevator, do yoga or dance. Just moving and exercising with friends will give you that boost of support you may need.
Say NO thank you. When hosts encourage you to eat or drink, learn to say “thank you but I’ve had enough”. It’s lovely to want to protect other’s feelings but not at the expense of your own health.
Be kind to yourself. You are not what you eat and what you eat doesn’t translate into your value as a person. Eating well during the holidays is very challenging. If you slip up, show yourself some kindness and recognize that you can stick to your plan going forward. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to a friend you love and admire.
Stay on track while at home. Make sure to eat healthy while at home, loading up on your vegetables and healthy proteins.
Visualize the way you’d like to look in the outfit you’d like to wear. Ask yourself how each choice of food will impact your weight goal.
Celebrate yourself when you stick to your plans and follow your goals. Make sure to notice your successes and even reward yourself with a massage, facial or something else of meaning to you.
Minimize stress. Holidays can be a stressful time. Minimize stress by exercising, stretching, meditating and spending time with friends.
I wish you all a very happy and healthy holiday season!
Hypnotherapy has long been in the news because of its benefits for weight loss. I have found it to be extremely useful in helping my patients lose the weight they want to lose and in keeping it off. It is not magic and one still needs to do the work. Hypnosis makes it easier to do the work. Why? Because it works with unconscious motivations, patterns and habits. I believe we all possess the tools to help us lose weight but we don’t tap into those tools because we eat for reasons other than true, physical hunger.
Hypnosis will make it easier to distinguish between real, stomach hunger and emotional hunger. It helps people feel like they want to make healthy choices rather than thinking they “should” make those choices. You will still have to use willpower, but it will be easier to use it. With the gastric band hypnotherapy program, it will be easier to realize when you have eaten enough to sustain health so that you can stop before you overeat.
The weight loss with this program is usually steady and sustainable. This means there is no “diet” to go on and no diet to go off, making it easier to keep the weight off. You will learn how to change your relationship with food and deal with feelings of anxiety, sadness, frustration, etc. without turning to food.